Was this a rude thing for her to do?

We had a gathering at our house yesterday for the Australian Football Grand Final, and my husband's best friend's brother came and had some friends with him too... they seemed quite young and had a 4 month old little boy, who they basically put in the pram and left for the day.

Anyway, being 33 weeks pregnant I have the change table set up ready for the baby in my bedroom.

A few hours after they got here I went in to my bedroom to get something and there was this mother changing her baby on the change table and using the nappy cream (which WAS new and un-opened) changing her son's nappy.

I did not say anything I just got my jumper and walked out, but I am pretty annoyed - I think it is just plain rude!

Not only to use someone else's change table without asking, but to open my rash cream and to go into MY private bedroom (which is nowhere near where everyone was gathered) without asking first.

Am I right?

Yea. I think that was a 'little' OVER the line. I mean, I can understand her need to change her baby. But....To just go ahead and help herself to your stuff is borderline disgusting. she should have asked and not assumed that you didn't care.

Just thought of this, too. if she is a mother, shouldn't she have brought her OWN stuff for her baby? Pretty much she was just using your nappy cream because she didn't want to use hers...UGH!

I AGREE! I think that is SO RUDE! NOBODY has any business in your bedroom except you, your husband, and your children! That is insane I would have flipped out! some people have no manners! I would NEVER let them come over again!

Um yes, that was VERY rude of her to do!!! she should have never done that without asking your permission...and lucky for her that you stayed quiet...if that was me, I would have confronted her right then and there about morals and whats polite and not polite....and I would let her keep the cream and replace it with a new tube. since she had no right to open it!

Oh my gosh!!! she opened something without asking you?? I woulda been pissed. lol but that's just me. I feel like she was being very inconsiderate of you and your home. if these were your husbands friends, have him talk to them. Wow... what rude people. lol if I get thumbs down, oh well. It was rude of her to just assume she could use personal, unused items in someone else's bedroom!

Yeah, that was pretty rude of her. Some people just have no manners.

You are right, totally rude. however, not much you can do about it unless you want to start a fight and put them off. are they good friends? maybe you just won't invite them over again.

People should know to bring their own baby bag!

wow. I would have been upset too.

That is quite rude; she should have first asked your permission to use the bedroom, and DEFINETLY should have asked your permission to use the cream.

You are most defenitly right. I would have never ever done then. Hell, i still ask my inlaws if i can have a glass of water. And to use your cream. Wow the balls of some pple.

I would honestly throw that cream out. I'm not a germaphobe or anything, but something like that that comes in contact with certain parts of the body, i would just throw out.

Yes, your right! I would have asked her what she was doing in MY room, and told her she needs to buy me some new cream. how rude!!!!!

She should have asked not only about using the room but using your diaper cream. of course you probably would have said 'yes you can, do you need help?' as any normal woman would, but because she didn't ask you're feeling insulted, as would I.

Some women (and men) are just rude and inconsiderate. She's probably a little low class, uneducated or just trashy and has no idea that her actions were ignorant.

Yes your right, but let it go. there probably won't be a next time anyway

I have to say i agree with you....most people would ask if there is somewhere they can change the baby.

We are lucky in our house, our bedrooms are upstairs and therefore off limits so if i found someone in our baby's room changing their baby and i had not been told, i would go nuts.

talk to your hubby to tho - maybe his mate asked him...probably unlikely tho and still no excuse for opening the rash cream.

you are SO right. what is wrong with people these days??

That's REALLY rude. she could have at least asked. you don't just walk up into someone's house and act like you own the place. It's perfectly understandable that you're annoyed.

Extremely rude!!! you are a lot nicer than I would have been!! I would have asked her what the bleep she thought she was doing using MY changing table and opening MY brand new rash cream that is supposed to be for MY child...not hers. then I would have told her to get out of my house and next time she needs to change her childs diaper at someone elses home she needs to ASK FIRST!

yea i think that aint right that gurl should have had enough respect to ask you, especially when it aint even her house, n as far as using ur baby cream u should have said something to her she was spreading germs n stuff. someone really should hav said sumthin to her 4 real

That is totally rude! she could at least asked for a place to change her chld's diaper instead of taking it upon herself to do what she wanted!
Damn, people are such idiots these days! Don't invite them over anymore!!

yes very rude. i use my friends change table if i am there and my daughter needs changing BUT our kids are the same age and we are close friends. i still put my daughters change mat down on top of it though. i would NOT use an unused change table set up for a baby that was on the way and i would certainly not use someone elses rash cream... unopened or opened. if i am caught short without wipes or nappies or whatever i will ask if i can borrow and generally replace what i have used. if they ever come over again i would suggest shutting that door and keeping a close eye on this lady. if at allpossible i would make it clear to the people that brought that couple that they would not be welcome in your house again and tell them why... hopefully it will get back to the couple and they will realise how rude they were. or not. either way your stuff, your house, your rules. some people may not understand what the big deal is but any decent mother will. YUCK!

that was rude. I would have said something. when you don't speak your mind, you tend to hold it in and get upset and vent it out later on to the wrong person. next time... if there is a next time, just say something in the moment. It was rude!

EDIT... I disagree with the person who said you don't want to start a fight. you would not be starting a fight. you merely would have been saying 'next time please don't use my baby things without asking, especially opening new packages'. you can speak your mind and set boundaries without it being a fight. Besides who said that the person who speaks there mind is staring it? what about the person that is offending in the first place?

yes that was amazingly rude. I can't believe her I would of been real mad and said something. I mean the nerve of some people. no manners at all. you would think that she had her own stuff and would respect you and your household.

I am a bit the same as Charli, except probably not as germ a phobic, lol

I never ever just help myself even at my own families house or in laws. I always ask first and make sure where is a good place to change my kids etc. I would never help myself to any-ones stuff without permission, nor go into their bedroom either. It is just icky and creepy. Ahhhh it makes me want to rearrange my room and clean it, and it didn't happen here, lol.

Was this a rude thing for her to do?