I like a girl but she has a boyfriend?

Jane and I have been co-workers for over 2 years. For those past 2 years, we treated each other as co-workers; friendly, amicable, with occasional joking.

our working relationship accelerated throughout most of this year. During a meeting, we were siting together. Bored, she casually drew a picture with some marker pens. she made that picture a casual gift to me. For some unknown reason, I kept it on my table ever since, even though back then, I had no feelings for her.

we talked a lot more over the past few months. she started to laugh more and more at my jokes. During meetings, she would make the effort at times to just talk to me. alone. I had her full attention. and I notice that whenever we talked, her voice was quiet and soft. normally, she is loud and boisterous; a people-friendly person. I tend to be much more quiet.

"You can really make me laugh,' she said to me. and I am a quiet person who generally don't talk so much in a group.

I eventually got comfortable enough with her to say, without any fear or hesistation, "I would like to buy you lunch". I made a move on her. she laughed, but did not say 'yes' or 'no'. and she continued chatting with me, giving me her full attention.

Here's the interesting part: she has a boyfriend. and she is engaged to him.

we went out together recently with a group of co-workers. she was always sitting with me, and she was often leaning very closely onto me, far closer than even close friends would sit. she talked mainly to me. I felt very comfortable talking with her. whenever she went to the ladies, I was always the one holding her stuff for her. when it rained, she always volunteered me to be the gentleman, the carry the umbrella to help ferry the other co-workers to shelter.

Here's something about me; I am not very good with women. and I don't really have many female friends, though I have many female acquaintances and co-workers whom I get along well with.

so, you can imagine how I felt when my two year working relationship with Jane reached such a state. that outing we had was the first time in many years where I felt so electric. I went on blind dates before, and on all occasions, I felt like a cold fish.

After much thought, I decided to back off. I don't wish my happiness to be build on breaking another guy's heart. I confided in a friend, but he merely shrugged it off, saying that Jane is very friendly, has invaded his private space before, and has been told off by some female colleagues for doing so. he told me not to take her behaviour seriously. But I know how she talked to me, and how she did not totally cut me off after I made a move (I don't even know why the hell I even did it!).

I decided to back off. I try to go for lunches now without Jane. I talk to her, still hear her same soft voice that she reserves for me. But I make the effort to break away. I also make it a point not to text her after work.

I feel awful. I feel terrible inside. I met a girl that I like and I actually made a move on her without even realizing it. and now, I have to walk away from it all, since she is engaged.

throughout all this, I don't really know how she feels towards me. I don't dare to ask (she is engaged), and I don't wish to end up in a situation where she gives me the cold shoulder.

I need some advice. is she just being friendly with me, and I have been mis-reading the signs throughout?

Or does she remotely like me? (But I don't wish to get myself ensnared in a love triangle. and I am no longer interested in having empty crushes).

I need help

Invite her to your place to watch a dvd, then make a move. Be a man.
Give her a drink or two if you want to improve your chances.
If she likes you, it will work. You never know unless you try!

if you don't want to get yourself ensnared in a love triangle or empty crushes...let her be. she has nothing to offer you.

just enjoy your friendship with her, who knows, she might have a really hot friend who might be interested in you?!

Urghh...
Well....
If she's engaged, I think it would be the best not to make a problem...

well maybe she does sounds like it the only way to find out is just to tell her u like her more or less that is how i found out a girl i have been friends with like me

there is nothing in that if u like a girl u should go & told striaght away . if she doesnt like then she will told u if then she will say yes but dont curse on urself as it can hurt us in future so moral is u should invite jane to dinner ,give him some wine & should told her. if she say yes enjoy with her & if no have a crush . but chill buddy life is not over

I think she likes you....as for the boyfriend..just pretend that he doen't exist. You've never met him, you dont know him, why should you be thinking about it? I say go for it, ask her out for a casual dinner thing . If anything she'll be the one to let you know to back off. otherwise, alls fair in love and war!

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